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The Anti-Mommywar Movement

July 14, 2014

The Anti-MommyWar Movement

There are many things that us women aren’t prepared for as first time moms. Some include: never being able to laugh or jump around without peeing, post-nursing saggy boobs, and that lovely mom guilt that rears it’s ugly head all too often. But there’s one thing I encounter on a daily basis that I still haven’t come to terms with.

The mommy wars.

 I am *SO* tired of the mommy wars.

Let me explain something here for those who aren’t moms just yet. Being a mom is HARD. You can try to imagine just how hard it is, but you’ll still be wrong until you actually experience it for yourself. Take it from me, who was the world’s biggest moron when it came to telling everyone how I was going to raise my child before he was even in my womb. I had no frigging clue. But now that I’m experiencing it first hand, I realize that moms are actually real-life superheroes, except better because we have no actual superpowers to make life easier. I mean, I would love a superpower that cooked dinner with the blink of an eye, or super-speedy arms that folded laundry in 2 seconds flat. But try as I might, that hasn’t happened yet.

(We can put a man on the moon but yet we cannot make a real-life Rosie from the Jetsons. What gives, universe?)

Anyways, us moms have enough to deal with day in and day out. But yet there are some moms who just feel the need to push their opinions on the rest of us if we aren’t doing things to their standards. And my question is….WHY?

Why do women do this, and why does it even matter?

Why are we knocking each other down instead of building each other up? Why are we on opposing teams because I choose to breastfeed and you choose formula? Or because I  choose to have my son sleep in his crib and you choose to cosleep? Or because I choose to use CIO and you choose to feed for comfort? Or because I choose to make my own baby food, and you use store bought? Or because I followed BabyWise and you don’t like the BW method?

It shouldn’t matter who does what. What one mother chooses does NOT effect another. Let us mothers raise our children how WE want. And with what works for US and OUR family. And if you don’t like it…keep your mouth shut (unless, of course, something is actually really harmful to baby, i.e. drugs/alcohol/abuse. Then by all means, speak up.) Stop complaining about other moms. Stop forcing your opinions on other moms, unless, of course, the other mom genuinely asks for your advice. Stop making moms feel like they are doing everything wrong, when we are just trying to do everything right.

We. Are. All. Just. Trying. To. Be. Good. Moms.

And not break our children. And raise them to be independent, strong little boys and girls who can take on this crazy world we live in.

We need to support each other as women and mothers. Let’s stop making enemies just because other moms do things differently. We are all guilty of this judgement (yes, I am too), but we need to stop. We need to praise and uplift each other because, as much as we love them, these tiny humans can suck the life out of us, and we shouldn’t have to feel like the worst moms on the planet.

We need to STOP the mommy wars.

Are you with me?

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  1. Stephanie says

    July 14, 2014 at 10:15 am

    so much yes!

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    • Lauren McBride says

      July 14, 2014 at 10:19 pm

      So glad you agree!! 🙂

      Reply
  2. Whitney says

    July 14, 2014 at 7:49 pm

    Like like like!!!

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    • Lauren McBride says

      July 14, 2014 at 10:20 pm

      So glad you agree!! <3

      Reply
  3. Felicia says

    July 14, 2014 at 11:56 pm

    Oh my…well said!!!! Amen sista! There is so much judgment out there.
    -Felicia
    spicy-veggies.blogspot.com

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    • Lauren McBride says

      July 15, 2014 at 8:20 pm

      There really is! We have to fight it! <3

      Reply
  4. Jennifer says

    July 15, 2014 at 10:13 am

    Amen! Thank you 🙂

    Reply
    • Lauren McBride says

      July 15, 2014 at 8:19 pm

      You’re so very welcome! <3

      Reply
  5. chelsea says

    July 15, 2014 at 11:50 am

    I seriously love this! I’m due next week with my first baby and I’m so tired already of the competition. People are so discouraging sometimes about things I want to do, like natural child birth. I get it. Not for everyone, but negative comments don’t encourage someone to try. I get that it’s going to hurt, so I don’t need to be told that. My sister in law has been the most discouraging person because she’s just a negative person who seems to resent her kids but then presents her “fabulous life” all over the internet. It’s just sad. I don’t get why it has to be a competition, whether it’s the “I have it worse than you” or “My way is better than yours.”

    Reply
    • Lauren McBride says

      July 15, 2014 at 8:19 pm

      I so agree! What is the purpose of telling you it’s going to be painful? How is that encouraging?! Ugh, it’s so frustrating. Just brush off her negativity!! And congrats on the little one! <3

      Reply
    • lindsay larowe says

      July 17, 2014 at 3:27 pm

      You can do it! Natural birth is what we were designed for. I was discouraged by countless people, but I did it anyway and i’m so proud!
      Do what works for you and try to block the naysayers out.

      Reply
      • Lauren McBride says

        July 31, 2014 at 10:25 pm

        Preach it!! I can’t stand naysayers.

        Reply
  6. Sylvia says

    July 15, 2014 at 6:14 pm

    Everything is hard for us moms, I tell you from experience, I have 3 grown daughters aged 29, 25 & 21 and a 10 yr old son

    Reply
  7. Sylvia says

    July 15, 2014 at 6:15 pm

    It’s always hard for us, I tell you from experience, I have 3 grown daughters aged 29, 25 & 21 yrs old and a 10 yr old son

    Reply
  8. Bethann says

    July 16, 2014 at 5:08 pm

    Very well written and 100% agreed!!:)

    Reply
    • Lauren McBride says

      July 31, 2014 at 10:24 pm

      Thank you!

      Reply
  9. Roxy says

    October 13, 2014 at 6:45 pm

    I agree 110%. I really do. I got a rash of negativity for wanting to have a natural child birth and no attempt no drugs! WHy? they weren’t going to be the ones in pain…it was me and MY choice! ALso for nursing and for nursing at night! Why? Uggh so sad!

    Reply
    • Lauren McBride says

      October 15, 2014 at 8:35 pm

      I love how everyone has to have an opinion! Ridiculous! You do what YOU want mama and don’t let anyone tell you different!!! xo

      Reply
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